How to Forget Negative Events And Move On With Your Life

Category: LIFE Published: Wednesday, 02 January 2019 Written by Life Coach Efosa Emovon


According to a great mind, “Life is too short to start your day with broken pieces of yesterday; it will definitely destroy your wonderful today and ruin your great tomorrow.” In fact, this word of wisdom deserves an award.

The simple fact is when you spend your wonderful today reflecting on your horrible yesterday, your horrible yesterday becomes your wonderful today. How do you expect to see the door that is opening when you focus on past failures?

You want to get to the top yet you keep thinking of your last fall, don’t you know it possesses the ability to weigh you down?

Yes, as humans we can’t help remembering how we lost our perfect health to that illness or accident, we can’t help to remember how our dear heart was broken by someone we hold dearly.

I know it is difficult to forget how we lost our high paying job, with our hopes and dreams shattered. But we do have a choice.

Yes, we have a choice to make the feeling alter our mood and put our health at risk, or learn something from it, grow, and forget about it for good. Here is the truth: Your so-called past does not possess the power to torture you the way it like it is because you have not learned to apply forgiveness that it has gain mastery over you.

The funniest part is the power it is using to flog you and put you through stress belongs to you. Forgiveness is the only virtue that can empower you and help you understand this mind politics.

Not until you learn how to apply the esteemed virtue called forgiveness your eyes will never be open to this ultimate truth. Simply put, you will never come to the realization that you have the power to dispose of any past event in your life.

In the words of a wiseman, “Happiness is a choice, not a result. Nothing will make you happy until you choose to happy. No person will make you happy unless you decide to be happy. Your happiness will not come to you. It can only come from you.”

The reason people choose to forgive their past It should be understood that the reason most people forgive is not to go to heaven but to put their mind at rest.

If you fail to forgive a man or woman that broke your heart, in fact, that person will continue to break your heart over and over again even though you are no longer together. What forgiveness does is to help you see the good in your dark past in order for you to forget about it.

Why you must learn to forgive your past

One of the major reasons you must learn to apply forgiveness is that it is unfair to disturb your wonderful today with your horrible yesterday; who knows what today brings. You must give today the chance to unveil what it has for you. You might be surprised it came to right the wrong of yesterday.

Who told you, you cannot get a better job? Who told you, you cannot love again? Who told you, you cannot make the crowd dance to your tune again, who told you, you have lost the power to make things happen. If you think you are finished you are.

Yes, anyone that doesn’t know the storm and sun comes for a reason is finished. Many people are happy today because they walked out of that marriage/relationship they invested so much on.

Many people were able to start up their own business because they were fired by their cruel boss. Many discovered great qualities they never thoughts they possessed on their sickbed.

It is because we don’t know the usefulness of forgiveness and how to apply it that past events can enslave our mind. That is why their ghost can continue to haunt us and deprive us of happiness. The whole truth is your happiness is tied down to forgiveness.

How to forgive and move on 

The next time that ugly incident or event flashes through your mind and about to make you feel blue, do these 3 things listed below to apply forgiveness in order to move on with your life.

1. visualize it objectively

No matter how dark your past is, try to visualize it objectively and dwell on that positive part. They are two sides to everything in life the side you focused on becomes who you are.

It is, for this reason, the first blind and dumb person in history to hold a bachelor’s degree Helen Keller advised us, “Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadow.”

Darkness can only overshadow you if you fail to look for the light in it. Remember, in darkness, you can go blind and can access the stars. This shows that there are beauty and ugliness in everything in life.

It is only when you see the valley in a mountain that you can climb it. To forgive your past and move on, you must appreciate it. Yes, one of the easiest and fastest ways to forgive your past and be free is to look for the good in it.

When you turn to its good side and focus on that part it will lose the power to torture your mind.

2. Ask yourself this question, “If they can forgive and move on with their lives what stops me from doing the same?”

Write down the names of 3 to 5 people you know have gone through a similar experience and the next time this dark past of yours come knocking at the door of your mind ask yourself the simple question above.

Pondering on this question can empower your mind and help you forgive your past and move on.

3. Don’t press the play button

The next time that emotion knocks at the door of your mind, counters it by making yourself to understand that its power to torture you belongs to you. Remember, you delegate that power to the emotion by pressing the play button.

In other words, when you start to apportion blames the moment this emotion flashes through your mind you have just press the play button. Understand that the blame game is one of the things that trigger this kind of emotion.

Therefore, you should take the time to reveal the role of all the actors in the event in other to lighten their wrong. It will be easier for you to stop playing the blame game and forgive after convincing yourself that there is a reason so and so acted the way he did.

Or why such and such a thing happened.



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