5 Effective Ways to Put Anger under Control

Category: HEALTH Published: Wednesday, 01 May 2019 Written by Life Coach Efosa Emovon

5 Effective Ways to Put Anger under Control On April 1, 1984, the world was stunned when soul legend and Motown records artist Marvin Gaye was shot by no other person but his own father, Marvin Gay Sr.

He was rushed to California hospital medical center where he was pronounced dead on arrival. Marvin Gaye was killed the day before his 45th birthday. Till his father died on 10 October 1998, he regretted his action greatly! In fact, he lived with the pain for the rest of his life.

If only he had brought his temper under control at that moment, of course, things would have been different. He deprived us of one of the greatest composers and singers of all time.

Many homes are broken today because of the little demon called anger. Innumerable numbers of people are in jail and even in the grave because of it. Many have lost their marriage/relationship and everything because of this emotion.

If you are the type that gets angry easily or it takes a community to calm you down when you are angry, you have a serious problem. In fact, you must do something about it before it does something to you.

During a sentencing hearing, Marvin Gaye Sr. tearfully told the court, “If I could bring him back, I would. I’m really sorry for everything that happened. I loved him. I wish he could step through this door right now. I am really paying the price now!”

ANGER is one of the emotions expressed by humans. The fact is there is nothing wrong in getting angry; what everything is wrong with is unable to control it. If you know you cannot fly an airplane don’t kick start it.

If you know you cannot control this emotion you must train yourself not to get angry. Or better still; learn how to put it under control. Because anger can reduce you to a beast faster than you thought possible.

In fact, it brings out the beast in us and makes us do things we spend the rest of our lives regretting. I wrote this article to help you put this emotion under control when it rises. Do you get angry easily? If yes, then this article is a must read for you.

Without further ado, let’s get started!

1. Take a few breaths

In order not to spend the rest of your life regretting your actions like Gaye’s father, try to take a few deep breaths the moment your vain begins to swell.

Yes, taking a few deep breaths when we are angry relieves us of the emotion and helps us feel better. How it works! One of the well-known structures of our brain is called the amygdala.

The amygdala handles emotion; while the prefrontal cortex of our brain which is located just behind our forehead is mandated to keep our emotion in check.

Therefore, you can control your anger by simply helping your prefrontal cortex get the upper hand over your amygdala. How? By simply applying a relaxation technique such as taking a few deep breaths!

When we get angry, our heart rate accelerates, our breathing rate increases, and our blood pressure rises. When the relaxation response is activated your heart rate slows down, breathing becomes slower and deeper, blood pressure drops or stabilizes, and muscles relax.

Taking a few deep breaths allows your heart rate to slow down, as well as correct any other physical reactions to the anger.

2. Practice meditation

One other way to help your prefrontal cortex get the upper hand over your amygdala is to practice meditation. Meditation is another relaxation technique that will help relieve you of this emotion.

In fact, a new study suggests that one session of meditation can help reduce your body’s response to anger. This study verifies the plurality of evidence that meditation, both short-term and long-term can help protect your bodies and minds from the harmful physical stress of anger.

Repeated, consistent practice of meditation enhances our ability to cope and sit with negative emotions such as anger without reacting.

3. Go for a cold glass of water

Another great way to put your temper under control in the middle of a heated argument is to go for a cold glass of water. Understand that no matter how angry you get the moment you gulp a cold glass of water, you will be able to put this emotion in check.

It works in two ways:

. It calms your nerves.

. The little time you use to disengage from the argument or quarrel is enough time for you to think and come to the realization that you are about to step on the path of madness.

4. Think of the consequence

One of the greatest thinker and philosopher of all time, Confucius advised us, “When anger rises, think of the consequences.”

The fact is it is difficult to think clearly when we are angry. What to do While in the middle of a heated argument, imagine a siren blaring. In fact, this is among the best ways to get rid of this emotion.

When you imagine it as your veins start to swell, the next thing that will come to your mind is the police. Of course, you wouldn’t like these people to come after you. Or do you?

This simple secret will help you think of the consequences of the action you are about to take and dissuade you from the path of madness.

5. Know the purpose you are on earth

The fact is if you know the purpose you are on earth, you won’t allow anything stands between you and that purpose. In fact, No matter how angry you get, it bends your thought in a positive direction because it has overshadowed everything in your life and taken a center stage in your mind.

Because it has become your life wire and the driving force of your life, it compels you to quickly evaluate the step you are about to take the moment you get angry. One great way to manage anger is to discover that which you are called upon to do.

A life without purpose is a meaningless life. Like other emotions, anger is experienced in our bodies as well as in our minds. Therefore, it is wise to fill the mind with positive thoughts.

According to Ralph Waldo Emerson, “For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind.”

Remember, life is too short. Try to take things with philosophical calmness so that you can live a happy life. I wish you the very best in life.

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