How to Forget Negative Events And Move On With Your Life

Category: LIFE Published: Wednesday, 02 January 2019 Written by Life Coach Efosa Emovon


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According to a great mind, “Life is too short to start your day with broken pieces of yesterday; it will definitely destroy your wonderful today and ruin your great tomorrow.” In fact, this word of wisdom deserves an award.

The simple fact is when you spend your wonderful today reflecting on your horrible yesterday, your horrible yesterday becomes your wonderful today. How do you expect to see the door that is opening when you focus on past failures?

You want to get to the top yet you keep thinking of your last fall, don’t you know it possesses the ability to weigh you down?

Yes, as humans we can’t help remembering how we lost our perfect health to that illness or accident, we can’t help to remember how our dear heart was broken by someone we hold dearly.

I know it is difficult to forget how we lost our high paying job, with our hopes and dreams shattered. But we do have a choice.

Yes, we have a choice to make the feeling alter our mood and put our health at risk, or learn something from it, grow, and forget about it for good. Here is the truth: Your so-called past does not possess the power to torture you the way it like it is because you have not learned to apply forgiveness that it has gain mastery over you.

The funniest part is the power it is using to flog you and put you through stress belongs to you. Forgiveness is the only virtue that can empower you and help you understand this mind politics.

Not until you learn how to apply the esteemed virtue called forgiveness your eyes will never be open to this ultimate truth. Simply put, you will never come to the realization that you have the power to dispose of any past event in your life.

In the words of a wiseman, “Happiness is a choice, not a result. Nothing will make you happy until you choose to happy. No person will make you happy unless you decide to be happy. Your happiness will not come to you. It can only come from you.”

The reason people choose to forgive their past It should be understood that the reason most people forgive is not to go to heaven but to put their mind at rest.

If you fail to forgive a man or woman that broke your heart, in fact, that person will continue to break your heart over and over again even though you are no longer together. What forgiveness does is to help you see the good in your dark past in order for you to forget about it.

Why you must learn to forgive your past

One of the major reasons you must learn to apply forgiveness is that it is unfair to disturb your wonderful today with your horrible yesterday; who knows what today brings. You must give today the chance to unveil what it has for you. You might be surprised it came to right the wrong of yesterday.

Who told you, you cannot get a better job? Who told you, you cannot love again? Who told you, you cannot make the crowd dance to your tune again, who told you, you have lost the power to make things happen. If you think you are finished you are.

Yes, anyone that doesn’t know the storm and sun comes for a reason is finished. Many people are happy today because they walked out of that marriage/relationship they invested so much on.

Many people were able to start up their own business because they were fired by their cruel boss. Many discovered great qualities they never thoughts they possessed on their sickbed.

It is because we don’t know the usefulness of forgiveness and how to apply it that past events can enslave our mind. That is why their ghost can continue to haunt us and deprive us of happiness. The whole truth is your happiness is tied down to forgiveness.

How to forgive and move on 

The next time that ugly incident or event flashes through your mind and about to make you feel blue, do these 3 things listed below to apply forgiveness in order to move on with your life.

1. visualize it objectively

No matter how dark your past is, try to visualize it objectively and dwell on that positive part. They are two sides to everything in life the side you focused on becomes who you are.

It is, for this reason, the first blind and dumb person in history to hold a bachelor’s degree Helen Keller advised us, “Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadow.”

Darkness can only overshadow you if you fail to look for the light in it. Remember, in darkness, you can go blind and can access the stars. This shows that there are beauty and ugliness in everything in life.

It is only when you see the valley in a mountain that you can climb it. To forgive your past and move on, you must appreciate it. Yes, one of the easiest and fastest ways to forgive your past and be free is to look for the good in it.

When you turn to its good side and focus on that part it will lose the power to torture your mind.

2. Ask yourself this question, “If they can forgive and move on with their lives what stops me from doing the same?”

Write down the names of 3 to 5 people you know have gone through a similar experience and the next time this dark past of yours come knocking at the door of your mind ask yourself the simple question above.

Pondering on this question can empower your mind and help you forgive your past and move on.

3. Don’t press the play button

The next time that emotion knocks at the door of your mind, counters it by making yourself to understand that its power to torture you belongs to you. Remember, you delegate that power to the emotion by pressing the play button.

In other words, when you start to apportion blames the moment this emotion flashes through your mind you have just press the play button. Understand that the blame game is one of the things that trigger this kind of emotion.

Therefore, you should take the time to reveal the role of all the actors in the event in other to lighten their wrong. It will be easier for you to stop playing the blame game and forgive after convincing yourself that there is a reason so and so acted the way he did.

Or why such and such a thing happened.

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Move on With Your Life

 

 According to a great mind, “Life is too short to start your day with broken pieces of yesterday; it will definitely destroy your wonderful today and ruin your great tomorrow.” In fact, this word of wisdom deserves an award.

The simple fact is when you spend your wonderful today reflecting on your horrible yesterday, your horrible yesterday becomes your wonderful today. How do you expect to see the door that is opening when you focus on past failures?

You want to get to the top yet you keep thinking of your last fall, don’t you know it possesses the ability to weigh you down?

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Category: LIFE Published: Saturday, 27 October 2018 Written by Life Coach Efosa Emovon


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One of the best ways to tell your critics to shut up and go look for something better to do is to keep silence. There is potency in silence; it is unfortunate that a lot of people don’t know this. They don’t know that silence can serve as a wipe.

If you know the usefulness of silence you will think twice before opening your mouth. In fact, you can use it to flog your critics and enemies. The prominent reason people badmouth you is to make you feel bad.

Some people are not happy with how life is treating them; they see no reason why you should be happy.To them your smile is an offense. In fact, your joy beats them.To this set of people, everything you say or do is wrong.

You undermine your ability to be happy whenever you open your ears to their unprintable words and trade venom with them. In fact, you are moving the smile on your face to theirs if you do this. Sometimes silence can seem so loud!

The best thing to say sometimes is nothing. If a madman says something and you raises your voice at him, everyone will come to the conclusion that both of you are mad.

According to a great mind, “In human intercourse the tragedy begins, not when there is a misunderstanding about words, but when silence is not understood.”

Life is too short! Don’t negotiate your happiness with anyone. It is easy to see a door that is opening when you are in a good mood. A man or woman that is in the habit of dwelling on the unprintable things people say about him or her cannot see the door that is opening.

Why? Simply because his mind will be submerged with the kind of thoughts that is fatal to happiness and success. It will be difficult if not impossible for such a person to see the opportunities passing bye.

What I am saying in essence is that happy people achieve more in life and live longer. If you which to succeed and live a long life you must learn to practice the virtue called silence. Not everything people say about you, you must respond to.

Sometimes your response can become the weapon they will use to steal away the smile on your face. If you know how to apply silence nothing in the whole of the universe can steal the smile on your face or temper with your joy.

In short, people will have no choice but to respect and think highly of you. Remember, it is hard to raise your hand at the man who says nothing.

The press knows how to make money! If they discover you are the kind of celebrity that is quick in raising your voice, they will continue to write unprintable things about you, because they know your response will make them get richer.

The press hates your silence more than death because they know it can kick them out of business.

The black social crusader Martin Luther King Jr. knows how important and expensive silence is that is why he said, “In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies but the silence of our friends.”

Silence means “Sorry I can’t hear what you say. “ It means “Shut up go look for something better to do.” It means, “Shut up, you are not fit to be talking with me”

Whenever someone says unprintable things about you before you get mad and raise your voice try to remember the three things listed below.

1. Some people open their mouth because they must say something

Understand that some people badmouth you not because they hate you or are envious of you but because they must say something. You are the topic of conversation because you happen to be passing by at the time they had nothing to say.

Sometimes if you hear the crazy things your neighbors  or friends said about you, instead of getting mad and trading venom feels pity for them.

Oh yes, they deserve your sympathy. If you are patient to look at the whole thing with a positive mind you will discover that they have all the time in the world to talk about you because they are idle. Remember, an idle mind is the devils’ workshop.

2. They are envious of you

Sometimes instead of beating yourself over what people said about you, laugh over it. It calls for celebration because people only throw a stone at a ripe fruit, not an unripe one.

The most criticized person in a nation is usually the president. Remember, if there is nothing special about you nobody will waste his or her precious time and energy talking about you.

Your matter has become a topic for them because they wish to be like you. You have what they don’t have. You are everything they are not that is why they are so upset with you. That is why they are ready to go to any length to make you feel unhappy.

How many times do you hear people talk of a mad person? If you can understand this simple thing you won’t waste your time trading venom with anyone or feeling sad.

3. They want you to say something

One of the reasons people badmouth you is because they want to prove that you are not a gentleman. They want to prove that you are like them.

By raising your voice you have proved them right. If you keep silence enough before long, your critic will realize how foolish they are. Anytime people say unprintable things about you try to remember these three things listed above.

Life is too short; don’t negotiate your happiness with anybody. Don’t permit anyone to make you feel sad. Wish you all the best in life.

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Category: LIFE Published: Sunday, 28 October 2018 Written by Life Coach Efosa Emovon


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Before you answer “Yes,” it is important you understand that one of the reasons your so-called friend is not wishing you die tonight in your sleep, is because you have not bought a new car.

The prominent reason he/she is not praying for your marriage or relationship to hit the rocks is that you didn’t marry a beautiful wife or a rich husband. Your secret is not the latest gist in town because you have not made the mistake of telling it to him.

I don’t know what happiness means to you, but if it means the same thing to both of us then by now you should know you have no friend. How many times do great minds have to remind us that, there is a thin line between friends and snake?

If you ask me to choose between a friend and a snake I may choose a snake. Why you might ask. Simply because, a snake can only do harm to your body, but a friend can sting you in the most delicate part which is your soul.

No wonder a Wiseman prayed years ago: “Lord protects me from my friends I can take care of my enemies.”

If you have tasted the tea of betrayal, without hesitation you will concur with me that it can kill faster than a poison. Time requires little or nothing to heal the wound in our body but requires forgiveness and a hero’s spirit to heal the wound in our soul.

Therefore, if your spirit cannot handle an ugly monster like betrayal, don’t make friends! If you find it difficult to forgive, go make your mama your best friend. I know you don’t want to end up a depress man or woman or do you?

If happiness really mean much in your world then the three things listed below shouldn’t be too difficult for you to understand.

.That you undermine your ability to live a happy life anytime you forget to consult your dictionary to look at what the word friendship really means before grinning at anyone who smiles at you.

.That in every ten person’s you call friends, five are your enemies, three, worst enemies, one neither here nor there and the last a friend? Remember, even the one that is said to be your friend is still a suspect because he can change at any time, so you must be vigilant!

.That you are creating sadness every time you open your mouth wide to pure out your secrets to anyone who smiles at you. Wish there is a machine used to dissect human smile, believe me, you won’t be talking to anyone.

If you think the worst sadness can do to a person is to take away happiness from him or her, then hear this. According to the World Health Organization [WHO], depression [acute sadness] is now a leading cause of disability worldwide affecting more than 300 million people.

And you think it can’t kill right! Listen to what the World health body said about depression. “When long-lasting and with moderate or severe intensity depression may become a serious health condition leading, at its worst, to suicide.”

According to the report, 800,000 people kill themselves annually. Do you know that one of the things which can trigger depression is a betrayal? Don’t think you are too good and stop to watch your back because we live in a world where good things don’t last.

Don’t think you are too smart because humans are greener than the snake under the green grass. If you want to live a happy life, you must understand that there is no alternative to happiness and it is not negotiable. In fact, guiding it should be your top priority.

The fact is if you cannot pick up your dictionary and search for the meaning of the word friendship before opening your door, then you are taking happiness for granted.

You have no idea the length people can go to hurt you do you? The fact that you are a professor at the university doesn’t mean you understand what friendship truly means. The fact that you a leader doesn’t mean you know what it truly means.

One of the greatest military commanders of all time and a consul of Rome Gaius Julius Caesar, paid with his dear life simply because he forgot to consult his dictionary to see what the word friendship truly means before calling Marcus Brutus a friend.

Even though Senator Brutus demonstrated on many occasions he was his worst enemy, he kept getting closer to him and calling him a friend. What friend gang’s up against you?

What friend eats and drink with you one minute then next minute badmouthing you at your back. What friend grieves at your joy! Dear esteemed reader, are you sure you really have a friend?

Remember, a friend is someone to talk to in good time and run to in a bad time. In other words, someone you can share your pains, tears, and joy with.

A friend is someone that will see you falling down instead of ridiculing you, make haste to pull you back. Of course, as humans, we are bound to make mistake. Even when a friend makes a mistake he is quick to admit it and apologize.

This is what friendship means. When you have a friend like this you excel in life. If happiness means the same thing to both of us, then you should be able to tell who is your friend and who is not.

If happiness means so much to you, then to do the things listed below is no more an option but a must.

1. Don’t make friends you are far richer or better than

If you make such friends, they read meaning to anything you do. Talk in a low tone, they think you are laughing at them. Walk slowly; they think you are raising shoulders. In fact, anything you do will appear to them as oppression.

Believe me, if they can’t reach your position they will stop at nothing to bring you down to theirs. These kinds of friends are very dangerous because no matter how smart you are, you can hardly see their true color.

In fact, they will employ every tactic to hide it, because of what they are getting from you. If a snake is deadly, they are deadlier. If happiness means so much to you don’t make friends you are far richer and better than in life.

Here is the truth; the conviction that birds of the same feather and heights flocks better together is one consciousness that more than anything else, prompts many to conspire to reduce their friends to their size.

2. keep fewer friends

There is no better way to generate enemies than keeping too many friends. People who keep too many friends are most likely to get depressed because betrayal and backstabbing are inevitable.

3. Keep your secrets to yourself

As I mentioned earlier, if there is a machine to dissect human smile you won’t be talking with no one. Do you think your friends are happy anytime you park your supercar beside their old jalopy?

Do you think they are happy to see you and your spouse or lover chasing each other about in a playful mood, while their relationship is on the brink of collapse? Remember, your secret is their weapon; they can use it to destroy or depress you.

You must learn to keep it to yourself if you wish to live happily.

. 4. Observe your friends

In order to clearly see the true color of your friends, you must learn to make practical use of the corner of your eye. Here is the truth; the human eyes can indeed help us to do many great things, but concealing envy is definitely not one of them.

Next time you celebrate success, if you can look long enough you will see it clean and clear, you will see Mr envy right there in his eyes. Bear in mind that anyone who grieves at your joy does not wish you well. Break that friendship before it breaks you.

Remember, Mr or Mrs Johnson cannot enter your house if you don’t open the door for him. No one can make your life miserable if you don’t permit it. 5. Talk When Necessary Learn to talk when necessary and not because you feel like talking.

There is no better way to turn a friend into an enemy than to talk because you feel like talking. It is better to keep quiet if you have nothing to say than open your mouth because others are talking.

Do you know that most of the things that come out of your mouth anytime you open your mouth because you must say something are rubbish? Always remember, you cannot take back your word.

It is difficult if not impossible to live a happy life when you surround yourself with people who have something in mind against you.



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